Meet Victorine Mbong Shu (The Author)
I am a businesswoman, researcher, workshops facilitator, conference speaker, chairlady, motivational speaker, wife, author and involved mother to four bubbly children. I am the founder and current chief executive officer of Profounder Intelligence Management Services www.profounder.co.za. I facilitate workshops and seminars for executives and managers. Most of my trainings are focused at employee and organisation wellness. These trainings are aimed to build and manage effective and friendly work environments. I coordinate, chair and speak in conferences on a wide variety of topics. Through my company, I have accumulated a wide variety of clients that cut across sectors and nations. My love for creating relationships that benefit children are eminent in these books. My desire to expand the discourse beyond bounds has prompted me to initiate a non-governmental organisation named The Involved Corner; www.theinvolvedcorner.org.za
As a mother of 4, employer and motivational speaker my journey and experience could also help to boost workplace morale. I am ready to facilitate in-house interactions at your invitation.
Introducing the Concept of Involved Parenting: The Books
Children these days seem to grow up very successful but appear to be emotionally lacking. Parents are faced with challenges in parenting that go beyond physically and consciously being there for their children. Employers and workplaces are faced with distracted parents who amongst other things, worry about the challenges of bringing up stable and fulfilled children. Governments are criticised for drafting and implementing policies that do not favour parents and children. Where and when did all this begin? Who can do what about all this?
‘Stop Complaining! and Bring Back Involved Parenting’ and ‘Start Investing! to Bring Back Involved Parenting’, written by myself; Victorine Mbong Shu is a series of two books published in 2016 by Profounder Publishing and Self-Publishing.
Why Partner with Involved Parenting?
The discourse in these books are set aside by the fact that they reflect real life situations of our times. The content of the books are aimed to recreate bonding in parenting from all facets. It is purposed to revive the workforce and recreate discussions between individuals and their bosses/employers but also with policy makers about the creation and preservation of legacies across sectors and at different levels all aimed at molding better children for the world. These books could just be the creator of your legacy.
DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOKS
It is worth remembering that:
‘Only adults can make children what they become and hope to be.
‘Only adults can make children what they become and hope to be.
Most adults know this, few do not. But all children
will not know this unless they are taught’.
Stop Complaining! and Bring Back Involved Parenting’ and ‘Start Investing! to Bring Back Involved Parenting’ is a series of two books written to provoke not only parents, caregivers and guardians, but adults, institutions and governments in general to come together and raise children in such a way that they grow up valuing life. These books create an opportunity for adults to look back and try to find what went wrong in parenting that has caused so much pain as a result of many breakdown in value systems and cultures across the world. Without necessarily going into the details of ideals, the narratives in these books create laid back reading companions. Both books consider, with a sense of humour, the many distractions encountered by parents and adults in their daily parenting. They make enjoyable reads because both books recount real life experiences of the author in her capacity as a spouse, a mother of four, a Chief Executive Officer an employer of parents and young adults, a multidisciplinary researcher, a motivational skills development facilitator and an author.
In these books, Victorine describes how mothering with joy, trials and tribulations has kept her going as a motivated and involved parent. She brings a lot of diversity into the books by sharing cases of grandparents, married parents, separated or single parents, estranged parents, same-sex parents, biological parents, parents of adopted children, relatives who parent, friends who parent, neighbours who parent, and also institutional caregivers. However, she is adamant that we all chose how we define our parenting style, how we choose to live with our children and our spouses and how we need to navigate our daily activities. Even though Victorine provokes all spheres by questioning the capability of parents, institutions and governments in current times, she encourages you to read these books to help with coping strategies in times where more effort is being put into parenting than in the benefits reaped from being a parent.
To Stop Complaining! and Bring Back Involved Parent, we need to sacrifice a lot in time, money and effort. We need to investment. Like every investment, we cannot do so without sacrifices and challenges. However, what we forgo and the difficulties we encounter can easily be combated by the type of mind-set we develop regarding children and their upbringing and then how we teach them.
For a better insight, of the discourse, it is important to note that the first book titled ‘Stop Complaining! and Bring Back Involved Parenting’ calls on parents and adults to see what children have become as what they have taught them. It calls on grown-ups to stop blaming children for societal ills but rather to take responsibility in making children better adults. The book breaks down parenting such that the roles and responsibilities of mothers and fathers are defined. Thereafter, both parents have to be positioned, but continuously repositioned such that their roles and responsibilities are in line with their changing values, cultures and statuses both at home and out of home. When positioned, parents also have to normalise attitudes in their houses and in society on involved parenting as a suitable means of grooming their children. Normalised attitudes will lead individuals, communities, institutions and governments to accept that family patterns today are very flexible, that there is a variety of difference in how different genders perceive and execute parenting and that single parents definitely parent differently from every other type of parents.
Involved parents like every other adult battles with themselves, their employers, societies,
children, finances, socio-cultural and other trials. The second book titled ‘Start Investing! to Bring Back Involved Parenting’ emphasises that children need both our time and our money to flourish. This book expresses the fact that most working parents are at war with their consciences on what to do and what not to do as they build relationships with their children. However, because life is real, the burden of life is heavy. This burden can be eliminated if parenting is treated like a collective investment even though the benefits vary. This book concludes that in enjoying the package of parenting, we must be cognisant of the fact that we are the world but our children are the future. This book concludes with salutation to South Africans, and involved Parents.
Basically, my cry is a reminder that when ground rules are laid as shown in book one, parents, children, institutions and governments have to start focusing on consistency and continuity with certain degrees of monitoring and evaluation techniques aimed at the betterment of all. Parents benefit when children are well mannered and taught how to look after themselves and their communities. So too do institutions and work places that in a long run are left to deal with the outcome of the parenting culture today. Work places have to make it their responsibility to make parents conscious of the fact that they need to teach children that as they grow, that adults are watching their moves, and that every action they take provokes a reaction. As we look after our children, it is important that we make these books our companions and enjoy the wisdom shared by all participants. Let us enjoy being involved parents, involved adults and involved institutions. Let us enjoy investing in our children so that they too might enjoy investing in theirs.
STOP COMPLAINING! and BRING BACK INVOLVED PARENTING
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Chapter 1: Parenting: the role of MOTHERS and FATHERS.
Chapter 2: Involved parenting: What is this?
Chapter 3: Positioning and repositioning parents.
Chapter 4: Putting Career before children and…
Chapter 5: Normalising attitudes.
Chapter 6: Changing family patterns: Clarion call for action.
Chapter 7: The gender trap.
Chapter 8: Single (gender) parents.
My Salutation to children.
Victorine Mbong Shu.
Author and Conversationist on Involved Parenting
Availability of book
Copies can be bought from the following avenues;
Victorine on +27 82 548 6385
Facebook on https://www.facebook.com/involvedparenting.book
My works on www.mbongshu.co.za
Publisher on +27 11 346 8300/www.profounder.co.za
Xarra Books: www.Xarrabooks.co.za
Online in South Africa: www.sabooksearch.co.za
Hard Copies: +27 11 440 7501 - Johannesburg or